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Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be filled with evils, cause sorrow, and other troubles. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, funds, age dissimilarity, religious upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the purpose of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.

Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking an affair. I am conserned typically though it is only the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several explanations I have run across.

Biologically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us flee the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the mechanism?

Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major group, colossal actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they feel comfy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your money are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.

Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.

Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.

Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply developed distantly, our general interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The major reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.